the funhouse mirror
In those early years where our belief systems are being formed, the threat of losing the love and approval of a parent
can be as frightening to a child as running into a tiger in the jungle. When parents react from their own unresolved belief patterns,
children will often make themselves wrong to calm the beast and wind up
accepting blame where none is warranted.
Taking on blame as a means of survival causes a child's self image to
get distorted in the funhouse mirror of their parent's faulty world-view.
This distorted
reality becomes the substance of a belief system that remains into adulthood
and beyond — sometimes to the grave.
As we leave home and grow into adulthood, we carry this false reality with us and begin the very sad process of recreating it over and over again in our lives. As much as we want to leave our past behind, we can't. The passage of time does little to help. On the surface, we feel as if we want good things in our life but...
...little do we suspect that deep in our being, a very powerful part of us is making sure we never get what we want.